To those who have not yet embraced Beauty, sadism is a projection of one’s own hurt ego unto others, in hope that others shall empathise and give compassion for their own sufferings. Masochism in those who have also not yet embraced Beauty however, are projecting a guilty conscience and seek redemption for their egos. Both passions are motivated in the goal of balance between desire and intellect; but without the subjective and very personal experience of understanding the difference between Self and ego, Will and want, a “guilty conscience” or the “reasonably justified aggression,” …these self-reinforced constructs become the only way to seek Compassion.
This is true of both practices consensually or non consensually. The difference between the two being, those that practice consensual sado/masochism usually decide to do so in order to minimise the extraneous (societal) consequences of their actions, whereas those who do not, sometimes are not conscious of their behaviour patterns or have been able to avoid facing negative consequences and therefore lack a consistent reinforcement of the results of their actions.
Those who find partners who enjoy sado/masochism and/or the switching of these roles can at times find Beauty from the reflection of this other–and from that point forward, want becomes Will, and Love is its projection. Sadism and masochism become secondary; alternatives for connection and the acknowledgement of another.
Sadism in its highest form, is the desire to witness the progress of others by empathy of one’s own ego-death; the unbalanced use of Strength to propel others across the Abyss.
Masochism in its highest form, is the desire to witness the similarity between one’s own ‘sadistic tendencies’ and these tendencies in others. By misjudgement of Compassion, one seeks to encourage Self-development in others so that they may rise towards Strength.
‘Sadistic and masochistic’ acts under Will, are an efficient way to rid oneself of guilt and societal accretions, which all arise from ego, regardless of a collective ego or personal one. Of course, all acts under Will can have neither positive nor negative connotations, for they are acts done for the sake of the acts themselves. To Understand and not judge (for who can we be judging but ourselves?) the desires of others can ultimately be synonymous with doing what thou Wilt; when thou Does, there is no ‘I’ to judge it. The ego becomes the manner in how one Does his/her Will, but no longer persuades one towards ‘wants,’ so long as the Work is being done.